Woman feels complete when she becomes mother. First child is always pampered and well attended because for the first time mother, all the experience is new and she wants to provide her child the best possible. The second time around, you are much savvier and know all the pain and hard work it takes to make a good mother. So when you expect a baby second time, you become more cautious and also worried about your first child. Since till now, the first child has been the only apple of your eyes, making him adjust to share the love of his mother with another sibling is a very difficult and equally delicate task.

So, when you find out that you are expecting a second baby, well scheduled time table should be made. In this time table, you should consider all the eating and sleeping habits of your first child so that his timings remain fixed even if the second baby comes. Although, at times after the second baby comes, once in a while this time table may get overlooked, but it will continue to nag you to come back to routine and thus will help you to manage time for your first child.

You can ask an elderly relative (woman) to come and live with you for the initial days, especially when you will be in nursing home or when at first the second baby is yet to adjust to a particular time table of waking and sleeping. This will relieve you of the worries of your first child even when you are not home and you can relax and take care of the newborn infant.

If your first child is school going, intimate his school class teacher, regarding your condition so that she can personally take more interest in his studies during that time.

You can also look out for crèche which keep the children overnight in cases of emergencies. Search for a reputed one which also provides good food apart from lodging and boarding. This way during your period in nursing home or even when the second baby has to go to clinic for check up, you will be relaxed on his behalf. You can start keeping your first child in the crèche some days from your due date. This way by the time, you are needed to leave him alone; he is well acquainted with the crèche staff.

Seek the help of a postpartum doula after the second child is born. During the early stages after the delivery, you will be weak and tired. Getting a doula at such time can be a great relief. A postpartum doula is woman who is trained to attend the needs of the baby and mother in the early part of delivery.

All these solutions can certainly relieve your tensions and worries about how to take care of first child when you are expecting a second one!